Halloween Spanking

Hope our friends across the pond are safe. Please let us know.

Ronnie
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Shout up if the picture is yours so I can credit.

Antipasti or Hankispanky

I spotted this when I was looking for a new bread knife the weekend, 

a Jamie Oliver antipasti board, it was massive! And heavy too, about 1cm thick, needless to say my mind drifted to other possible uses, I quickly snapped it, (blurredly because other customers were milling around,) to share the thought with you.

I didn't buy it in the end. I showed P the picture. He said it looked far too heavy to be used as a paddle but should have bought it anyway, it's a nice way to serve sharing of antipasti. I think he's right.

Have a good week.

Ronnie
xx 

Vintage Spanks

Officer or a Gentlemen?

Is it me or does the cane seem rather long? 

Seems the girls haven't been saving.

Not my usual type of black and white pictures but hope you enjoyed them.

Have a fun weekend.

Ronnie
xx

Pictures from vintagespank

Spanking Note

Made me smile.

Ronnie
xx

Let me know if the note or cartoon is yours so I can credit.

Thank you Bonnie

A great idea Ana and Mrbbspanker.

Bonnie,

If it wasn't for you I wouldn't have started blogging and met so many wonderful friends.  You have done so much for our community.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

To join in, simply copy the image above and paste it into a blog post, make sure you give the post the title "Thank You Bonnie" and write as little or as much as you want.

Love,
Ronnie
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I Lied

I don't like lying, I mean I don't mind little porkies which are told for the greater good and to help keep the wheels of daily life running smoothly, but I don't like big lies that cover up something bad or can hurt someone. I'm not very good at them anyway as you'll see, not that my lie was a big bad one, just a silly one.

It was all over this little item below, which many of you will have seen before and many, I know, will be acquainted with... intimately.

It's the rose paddle from Leatherthorn, we've had it ages and it had been in use (vigorously I might add) on Saturday afternoon. I didn't put it back upstairs because our son was away for a couple of days and P had said he'd have no qualms about using it again later if I didn't get a certain thing done and the prospect of another warming the same day thrilled terrified me.

So what happened to cause me to lie, cleverly I thought but on reflection not so, was that a neighbour from across the road came over later to collect our breadmaker which I'd told her she could borrow and use before deciding to buy one. I went into the kitchen, unplugged it and when I carried it into the lounge she was standing there holding the rosewood, in fact she was tapping it against the palm of her hand as if appreciating its weight. 

"This is nice, what's it for?" She asked me. God, I nearly dropped the breadmaker on the floor as I pretended to struggle with its trailing lead to give me time to think and take her attention away from my red face.

"Oh that, yes, I don't know...we were wondering ourselves....our son brought it home the other day, he said he found it in a hotel he stayed in.

"Hmm, really?" Her eyebrows rose and she smirked. "I expected there to be a mirror on the other side."

"Yes, I thought so too, perhaps it was a reject, maybe a leather goods salesman had stayed at the hotel, I might ask P if he could fit a small mirror to it"

Lies lies lies, and don't they say one lie leads to another.

"Well, if you decide you don't want it, don't throw it in the bin, let me have it. Thanks for the breadmaker, bring it back tomorrow." And off she went.

Phew! I thought as she left, sorted that very deftly Ronnie, putting a mirror on the back of it indeed!

But thinking about it, I wasn't so clever at all because now I'll be worried about her bumping into our son and mentioning it to him just in chatty conversation and he won't know what the hell she's on about so he'll ask me, and that will involve more lies and so on.

Well some good came of it, I got my second bottom warming but not for the reason I'd thought.

Have a good week.

Ronnie
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Friday Swats

Lets take a look at more film swats.  Couple look old but I'm sure you film buffs will know them.  

Do you?

Peter Cushing, right?

Surprise - I actually know this one - Wagon Train (but don't know the actors)

Thanks to our good friend Chross.  He sure does know his film swats.

Chross said...
These posts are a good memory training, really :)!

#1 My Best Girl (1927) - Carmelita Geraghty is getting the spanking; the girl watching the spanking is silent movie star Mary Pickford

#2 The female animal from 1958
Jane Powell on the receiving end.

#3 Tender Dracula from 1974. Miou Miou is indeed spanked by Peter Cushing.

#4 Three Girls About Town from 1941
Janet Blair gets spanked

#5 Robert Horton & Susan Oliver

#6 The Ribald Tales Of Robin Hood from 1970
Spankee not identified yet.

Chross - I'll have more for you soon then:)  Do you know who the actor is in picture #4?


A colleague told me it's only 10 weeks to Christmas and she's started buying pressies. Where did the year go.

Have a fun weekend.

Ronnie
xx

Due a Spanking

I told you the other day I was going to get spanked, after P told me I was. I didn't tell you what for though and I didn't know myself until the weekend when he told me it was because I was still harping on about not getting my summer dose of sunshine, sand and sea.....(there are more s's like spain, sex, sangria etc, funny that).... even though he'd spanked me for it once. Well he's right I haven't really let it drop and I even emailed my friend Janet and asked her if she fancied a long weekend somewhere, I copied P on it too.

And so it was that on Saturday I ended up over my husband's lap, my favourite position, still being lectured about my attitude, which was absolutely perfect for me because I rather enjoy sinking into that feeling, realisation in fact, that my attitude truly has been defective and therefore I deserve what I'm about to get. I also very much like it when I can tell P is serious about what he's saying, it makes it better for me.

There is a formula which always works for me, a pattern which the best spankings (I'm not talking sex spankings) always follow, it's more or less as below:-

Genuine annoyance (husband) + subconscious guilt (me) + initial denial + initial resistance + spanking + gradual submission + spanking + complete submission + spanking + apologies and pleas + more-spanking-for-good-measure = contrite, subdued, respectful Ronnie

And the thing about these kind of spankings is they make me want sex more than sex spankings, though not always immediately. I know lots of you know the feeling.

Anyway back to the spanking which started as his lecture was winding down, I think he likes to save his breath, he probably also realises his wise words would be drowned out by the resounding thwacks which supplement them and the girlish cries they elicit, not to mention the struggling which inevitably occurs. Short sharp words or phrases work best during a spanking so I pick up on things like "Keep still" and "Harder" and "You deserve" and "Pants coming down".....etc whereas an ongoing scolding, however well reasoned, would be lost.

I didn't tell you I had my jeans on, did I? Well I did, at least for a couple of minutes and I didn't tell you he was hand spanking me either but he was, though both conditions were to change. I believe I've told you before my husband has powerful hands, creative maybe even artistic, but strong, they can hurt. I tried not to show how much they hurt and when P paused to ask me if he was getting through to me I didn't answer. He asked me again, I sensed impatience in his voice and I said "You've got nothing to get through about......." and then as an afterthought, "..And anyway it's been so long since you spanked me you've probably forgotten how to get through." I'm sure my voice trailed off towards the end of the sentence, I know my bravado did and when he asked me to repeat what I'd just said, I wouldn't. 

It didn't make any difference anyway, my jeans were undone and pulled down,

not the easiest thing to do when otk and he was quite rough, my panties followed much more easily and he spanked me some more then I felt him reach to the floor whilst gripping me firmly in place with his left hand, I couldn't see what he'd picked up but I guessed it was one of my house slippers which I'd kicked off. I was right, I knew instantly when the smooth rubber sole landed across my bare bottom, the slipper soles aren't huge not big enough to spank both buttocks together so I got them in batches alternating between cheeks and it went on for ages and eventually, after pathetically  struggling and demanding he stop, I cried out that he was getting through to me and would he PLEASE stop. He didn't of course and then I started telling him I was SORRY, I REALLY WAS, and PLEASE, P, I'VE LEARNED MY LESSON. I felt like I had, too, my backside must surely have been swollen, it had gone past 'hurt' it was almost numb and I had stopped struggling, I could feel tears in my eyes but I wouldn't let them come. P knows me well enough, a few more hard spanks to show he'll be the one who decides when it's over

and then it stopped and I heard the slipper drop to the floor.

I stayed over his knee, I was sniffling, his hand was gently rubbing my back. He started talking to me calmly again, no tension in his voice, he told me I'd been a silly girl but that was it, all over now. I told him again that I was sorry and I knew I'd been out of order and I hadn't meant to be nasty to him. "Come on then, get up, I'm going to make a cup of tea, would you like one?" Asked my husband. "Yes please," I sniffled as I got off his lap and pulled my knickers up.

When he came back with two hot mugs I was sitting on the sofa, jeans still round my ankles. He sat next to me, put the mugs on the floor and his arm round me and I let my head rest on his shoulder.       

"You know what started all this, the holiday," he said, ".....well, it's not quite the same but Stefan has asked me to meet him in Helsinki end of this month or early next and I thought you might like to come."  

I just made a Mmm noise and snuggled closer, stifling an ouch as the seat grazed my bum. Helsinki isn't quite like Spain, especially at this time of year, and I knew it would only be a couple of days but I suppose it's the thought that counts.

Ronnie
xx

Pictures from Miss Pink.

Wife Training

Sometimes I hope she never learns!

Made me smile.

Have a good week.

Ronnie
xx

I need a Spanking

Because

That's what P said to me.

Naughty, how I asked.

You'll know when your over my knee.

And there's me thinking I'd been good.

Ronnie
xx

Spanking photo from etsy.

Granny approves

I just love the way Granny sits there with that smile on her face, half way between amused and satisfied.....and maybe bringing back memories:)

Maybe someone knows the name of the film and actors.

Happy Thanksgiving to Hermione and all our friends in Canada. Have a wonderful day.


Film is called Bunker Bean (Thank you Richard)

Staring
Jessie Ralph as  Granny. Owen Davis Jr and Louise Latimer as the couple.

Never heard of the film or the actors

Have a good week.

Ronnie
xx

Spanking Party Answers

I want to thank everyone who stopped by and left a comment re my Spanking Party post and especially to all who were able to share their experiences with us.

Here are the questions answers in case anyone missed the original post...

1. If you've never attended one before - do you just go along and go up to the.. Maitre d'..?../organiser and introduce yourself.  Is there any protocol?

2. How do you let others know you would like to spank or be spanked? Do you just go right up to them and ask? Do some wear badges with their name and preferences, specialities  experience etc?  

3. If you've agreed to be spanked by someone you've never met until that day - how do you go about letting them know how much you can take/what implements/ safeword. With so many different preferences, tolerances etc, do you go off and agree more or less what's on and what's off (might be a bit clinical) or do you 'trust' someone you've maybe never met before (might be exciting dangerous) and also what about the safeword, who chooses it, is it a prerequisite, is it sacrosanct?

4. What happens if you're OTK and someone goes a little too far and doesn't stop even though you want it to, by safewording or some creep lets his hand wander where they shouldn't?  Is there a referee or do you give them a kick and tell them in no uncertain terms what you think of them?

5. Can you attend and not participate?

SpankCake...
I will answer these the best I can! I just attended Shadow Lane last month... my first spanking party!

1. At the door there was a table where you could register if you didn't do so online. I actually never met the organizer, or if I did, I didn't realize who they were. Shadow Lane is a big party, so I imagine it would be different for smaller get togethers.

2. We all wore badges that had our name and four circles you could check off: Dom, Sub, Switch and Other. Many people had trouble seeing the details and would just ask... it is a great ice breaker, making way for conversation with new friends.

3. I only got spanked twice, the first time was in a group setting where limits were discussed prior to the scene. The second time, she asked as we went along, but I was pretty open going into it.

4. There was no referee, but much of the play happens in front of people and I would think anyone of them would come to your rescue. I think the rules of private play are like those if you were to engage in private play outside of a spanking party. One suite had privacy cubicles, where you could play in private, but had the security of people being nearby in case anything like that were to happen.

5. Yes! I participated to the most minimum degree. I never felt out of place, but it was very much like being on a diet at a buffet! Takes a lot of will power!

I'm not sure if you saw my party reports, but just in case, here, here and here.

Joey...
1. Many parties require an application before the address of the venue is provided. Sometimes the organizers will talk to the applicants first or ask for references. This is more important for male tops. A good organizer will discuss the protocols with a male including safe words, dress code, hand placement during a spanking, etc.

If approved, the address of the venue is released to the applicant. A good organizer will ask the new party goers to introduce themselves in person at the start of the event. The organizer will introduce the new person to experienced members of the club who will help them meet people. Often there are chat rooms or message boards so that new party goers can introduce themselves and meet others online before the party.

2. At SCONY parties, I put on a name tag (scene name) with a color that indicates if I am a Top, Switch or Bottom. I wrote my preference on my name tag for Shadow Lane.

A new person should talk and connect with people first. Experienced members try to help them feel comfortable and meet other members. Hopefully, a first timer has emailed some party goers first and arranged to meet a couple of people.

A top will ask a female if you want to play once they have met you. Male bottoms must ask to be spanked! Usually females do not have to ask to be spanked, but some do. You can agree to play or not. A top should not be offended by a no. Often the people you met online or at the party will suggest a top or introduce you to one.

3. All tops should discuss your limits with you. For a first time party goer, most tops will go easy. A top must discuss safe words with you as well. A safe word is "sacred." Use of a safe word means stop.

I start with easy spanks by hand and ask if it is OK. I will build up a little harder and ask again. For a new person, I may use my soft leather paddle for a few spanks as well. I want the first experience with me to be fun. Almost all experienced male tops I know will follow this process for new players.

As a first time party goer, a female should rely on other female bottoms for advice on who is a good top. If no one knows a male top, I would suggest not playing with him. Again, this is for a first time party goer.

4. I know female friends who have experienced both of the situations you describe. At a SCONY event, a female in distress can be heard by other guests. The type of misbehavior you describe would cause someone to be ejected and banned from future parties. Hotel parties, where play is in rooms, creates a higher degree of risk for the female.

5. Sometimes, a person will attend a party for the first time and not play. Just attending a party takes a lot of courage. I try to encourage a female to try a very light hand spanking over pants as a means of stress release. I know from experience that they will be upset at the end of the party if they did not have at least one experience.

At the SCONY parties I attend, experienced members guide and help new party goers. We were once newbies and know how emotional a first party is for most people.

Joey has kindly invited anyone who has more questions to email him or if your a little shy send them to me and I'll pass them on.

Our Bottom Burns...
Others have answered about the "public" parties. I will answer about the smaller "private" parties. You are invited and know something about everyone that will be there before you arrive. You have had the opportunity to IM, exchange emails, talk with others before the party. So you know the players, who spanks, who wants to spank, how they like to play and with that degree of familiarity, you don't have wandering hands.

Have known one or two that said they were just going to watch. They did not watch long.

Rob...
Most parties have their own protocols. SSNY and SCONY (in NY) as well as MSA, all tend to be quite solicitous to the new bottom. SSNY's tend to be larger and louder, while on the other side MSA is very small and every guest has been fully vetted.

All of the suggestions are good:
1. Start by observing.
2. You can ask one of the organizers for safe people to introduce you to for your first experience.
3. Talk with other subs.
4. If you talk with a top and he wants to play, he should be the one bringing up safewords, limits, etc.
5. Routinely I will check with a play partner to see how they are doing (especially if I know they are a newbie).
6. Go to a MUNCH. This is not a play party but is frequently people that go to play parties.
They meet in a very vanilla setting and discuss things in general or a party following the munch.
7. If you feel pressured to play or do something you don't want to STOP. The parties are based on mutual consent.

I have heard of things going awry, but oddly enough, not at the parties I attended.

If you use reasonable caution and common sense, you should have a good time.

Inappropriate touching does occur, but I believe this happens more frequently in dungeons, BDSM parties than at "pure" spanking parties.

I am not saying it never does, but I would say it is considerable less.

People who do inappropriate touching find that they are not welcome at most spanking parties.

The three main ones in NY (MSA, SCONY and SSNY) all would immediately throw anyone out who engaged in that behavior.

Lea...
1. Even the "public" events are somewhat private in the sense that you typically do some sort of registration before finding out where and when the party is.

This is for everyone's safety so things don't get crashed by vanillas or worse, some crazy FBI spanking sting operation. ;-)

2. I'm sure people would LOVE if you went right up and asked! That is one direct way to initiate things. Usually there are name tags where you can indicate your role or "just observing."

Smaller private parties aren't necessarily set up this way. At local BDSM events I've attended it's a lot more difficult to know who is into what and how to approach since it isn't "just" a spanking party.

3. I've always had a conversation, sometimes a few, with the person I'm thinking about being spanked by. That way we can both talk about our preferences and limits. "Just so you know, I bruise easily so don't be freaked out" or "I really love leather." Whatever you think might be important to mention.

Some people may not do safewords, but I always discuss what safewords will be in place, even with people who have spanked me many, many times. I know someone who thinks it's not necessary and silly. "It's a spanking? What's the worst that could happen?" he says. Personally, I don't want to find out. No one has objected to me having them in place and if they did I would find someone else to play with.

4. If something clearly inappropriate happens, one can usually tell the party organizer or whoever else might be around to get help handling it. Most people I know would swiftly kick the offender out.

These situations seem few and far between, but having recently experienced one I can't say enough about the importance of speaking up. If you don't say something, it can't be fixed. If you don't tell anyone, they can't help you.

5. Absolutely. Even with the group I attend frequently and know people well, there are times I switch to the "just observing" tag. Sometimes I'm just tired out or my bottom has had enough for the moment. People are always respectful of that.

Emen...
Secret Spanko also wrote a funny, detailed report here of his admittedly brief but chockfull experience at TASSP, the party in Dallas last June. Very different from Shadow Lane in Vegas.

Anyone been to a UK spanking party?  Love to hear from you if you have.

Enjoy the weekend.

Ronnie
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Mrs Barker Disciplined

As school secretaries go Mrs. Barker was exemplary but she had taken on a position with a high salary, high expectations and high level of personal discipline which she repeatedly failed to achieve.

The penalty was a trip to her headmaster's office where she was subjected to a sound bottom warming from the headmaster's cane.....a situation which occurred with alarming frequency. 

Not unusually would her bottom be tenderised two or even three times in the same week..... 

...and she amazed her headmaster with her stoic bravery, presenting herself for correction without complaint and always immaculately turned out... 

The Head showed no fear or favour, punishing his secretary quite as severely as he would any naughty senior girl and sending her back to her office, frequently teary eyed, after he'd dealt with her. 

Andrew Barker had initially had doubts about offering his wife the position of school secretary but her presence certainly added colour to his week, not to mention her bottom, and their domestic life had never been better!



I enjoy re-visiting some of my older posts and sharing them with my new readers.  My loyal readers may remember this one.

Wont be around over the weekend (no, P's not whisking me away on an exotic break) family commitments but I'll be scheduling a post for tomorrow with the answers to my spanking party questions given by bloggers who have first hand experience at attending these parties.

Have a fun one. 

Ronnie
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Spanking Parties

Spanking parties have always interested me and I've enjoyed reading the recent reports on the Shadow Lane party. I was going to email a few bloggers who attended to ask a couple of questions but then I thought others might be interested too so why not post. 

Now my questions may sound silly but nevertheless I'm going to ask and would be delighted if some of you who attended (or anyone who has attended other events) would have time to answer.

I am of course asking as a newbie (which I would be), wanting to attend (which I might be) :)

1. If you've never attended one before - do you just go along and go up to the.. Maitre d'..?../organiser and introduce yourself.  Is there any protocol?

2. How do you let others know you would like to spank or be spanked? Do you just go right up to them and ask? Do some wear badges with their name and preferences, specialities  experience etc? 

3. If you've agreed to be spanked by someone you've never met until that day - how do you go about letting them know how much you can take/what implements/ safeword. With so many different preferences, tolerances etc, do you go off and agree more or less what's on and what's off (might be a bit clinical) or do you 'trust' someone you've maybe never met before (might be exciting dangerous) and also what about the safeword, who chooses it, is it a prerequisite, is it sacrosanct?

4. What happens if you're OTK and someone goes a little too far and doesn't stop even though you want it to, by safewording or some creep lets his hand wander where they shouldn't?  Is there a referee or do you give them a kick and tell them in no uncertain terms what you think of them?

5. Can you attend and not participate?

I'd love to know, I really would.

Ronnie

xx

Couldn't find the right picture (but you know me and pictures) Let me know if it's yours so I can credit.

Words

There were words.....

......And there were more words 

There were even raised voices, well one actually (not P's, I might add)

Then there I was over my husbands lap 

Being lectured on my attitude (over not going on holiday which I'll explain another time) and my less than ladylike language. 

Then that same raised voice again only this time for an entirely different reason.

And 15 minute later there was a very sorry girl with a very sore bottom.

Have a good week.

Ronnie

xx