Questions answered

IMV - I was wondering if you had giving thoughts to maintenance spankings? A lot of blogs I read are doing that. But I think you might say no, because you like pushing P button to earn that spanking... :) 
We don't do maintenance spankings as such, we've tried amongst most other things but it didn't really take off, I think P found it hard going and made him feel under pressure over something there shouldn't be any pressure over at all. He likes to have reasons, not just do and I do like to push his buttons:)

Bob - Have you ever wished (or asked) P to push your limits more than you are comfortable with, i.e. have you ever felt like a harder more prolonged punishment than you would normally take?
Yes I have asked him a couple of times. He pushed me further with the cane than I ever thought I'd be happy with. I have huge respect for the cane now. Sometimes when he's spanked me quite hard and I'm thinking that's probably it he says things like 'I'm only just starting' and it makes me excited to think there's more. Maybe that's the right time to stop, better to leave a lovely meal still just a bit hungry:) 

Joey - Are there any other types of kinky activities that you want to try?  
Other than spanking (which I don't even regard as kinky although I know the majority of people do) and the vibrator (see answer to Fiona's question) there isn't anything which I harbour secret fantasies over. If there was, I hope I'd be able to let P know somehow and I would hope he'd consider giving it a go.........or spank me for being so absurd, either way I'd win.

PK - If you ever convinced P to retire, how do you think the two of you would spend most of your time? 
That would be a fine thing but if he did, I'd like to think we'd travel more but I know P would have to do something else with his time.

Hermione - I know you like the cane, so I was wondering how many strokes are the maximum you have ever received at one time?
I don't like the cane!!!! (nose getting longer). I asked P this one. He said he thought about 50-60 strokes at one time but he qualified that by saying they weren't full force in spite of the lovely lines and he'd only gone that far because I'd shown a willingness, he says he can read my bum body. He also said that on the occasions he's punished me for truly being out of order, it's usually between 6 and 12 and on one occasion which he actually remembers it was 18. I know I've also received 24 strokes.

Fiona - What was your first experiences with kinky activities (together and individually)?
Spanking for both of us....for me it was with P, for him (I didn't know this until now) it was with a girl at school the year he left for grammar and a girl used to make any excuse for spanking him as best she could, she walked the same way home and it used to irritate and embarrass him but it also gave him feelings after he'd got rid of her to the safety of his house....amazing he only just told me that! Then nothing spank-wise till he was with me.

Do you have other kinks other than spanking? 

If you can call it a kink. Wearing a vibrator out in public and P having the remote.

  
What is a fantasy that you have that you would love to live out? 

I'd loved to be spanked after a riding session, I would have to be correctly attired and so would he, I would have failed to impress in some way, or been disobedient or lazy not tending to my horse properly, something along those lines. It would perhaps have been a repeat offence for which I'd been warned and now I'd gone too far. He would deal with me firmly in the stable, bending me over a hay bale or something and giving me a good cropping.

What's your favorite kind of food?  

Anything P makes, he's a wonderful cook:) I love Italian.

OBB - What's with 95% of the mass of the universe being something called dark matter because they know it's there but can't find it. Is this where socks go? 

Of course it is, our house is full of dark matter.

Is there spanking after death? I need to know soon, as I am closer to death than 25?  

Yes, don't worry.

Does P need a longer/thicker cane?   

Thankfully no, he has three canes, different lengths and thickness, I can tell the difference, but it is the the way they are applied which makes the real difference 

Jan - Have you had the unreasonable caning yet? 

No I'm afraid not but thanks for the reminder, I'll have to work on it:)

Whose idea was the spanking in the first place yours or P's?
P's I suppose. It started with playful swats, probably like it does with most couples. Then much later I read some throwaway paperback on holiday, I think a Jackie Collins, in which there was a brief account of a girl getting spanked and I told P about it, I remember him reading the extract and telling me so and saying it seemed to have done her some good. I think that was probably the first time P ever mentioned it, I mean the actual determined act of spanking, and told him I agreed.
Later the same day P spanked me, we'd been out to some barbecue place where there was dancing and free flowing wine, we were both a bit tipsy or at least I thought we were, and I know I was acting seductively, P noticed it of course and so did other men according to him. Anyway to cut it short when we got back to our chalet I got spanked for the first time ever, it was fairly hard, or I thought so, and it was followed by ridiculously satisfying hot summer night sweaty sex. Next morning I woke late, P was already up I could hear him swimming in the pool, when I came out of the shower he'd done breakfast for us on the terrace, I told him he'd spanked me last night as if I expected some explanation but he just patted my bottom and said he knew and it didn't do me any harm did it? Well he was right.

It seems to fit into your lives so well I just wondered if you struggled at first or did everything fall into place? 
Seems such a long time ago. I was a bit awkward about it and used to pretend I didn't like it much although deep down I did, and he was always unsure how to initiate things, remember we didn't really have the internet then. No such problems now.

IMV, Bob, Joey, PK, Hermione, Fiona, OBB Jan - thanks for the great questions.

Come back next Wednesday for more questions and answers.   Still taking questions.

Ronnie
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