Friday, 25 November 2016

Remember who's In Charge

Nearly 4 hours mooching around Valletta alleyways, churches, galleries and antique shops in drizzly but warm rain at 19C, then a spectacular thunderstorm with lightning show enjoyed from a hotel bar overlooking the harbour. That was Saturday, unfortunately it wasn't me. It was a whatsapp message from our son and partner who are in Malta for a few days with friends. I replied that it sounded great, well the thunderstorm overlooking the harbour did, and was going to tell him it was 4C in the UK and the wallpaper wasn't coming off the walls as easy as it should have done and the plaster underneath was dodgy in parts so P was going to patch it, oh and the plug sockets circuit had blown and wouldn't re-set because P had applied water to the walls extravagantly and soaked the electrics.....but I didn't. Instead I said the decorating was going great, yeah, no problem, have a great time send us some pictures, love Mom.

You see we'd promised to do a few jobs for them while they were away, they need it, they both work long hours and their new house is proving more of a challenge than they, and we, thought. They even thought about cancelling their mini break last minute because they've got so much on but P said no don't do that, recharge your batteries and we'll do a bit on the house while you're away. Good intentions, I can't fault my husband on his heart being in the right place but he does dive into things sometimes.

We'd had a few words after the sockets blew because I couldn't boil a kettle to make a cup of tea. He said just put a saucepan on the stove, which was gas, but then it occurred to me I couldn't hear the fridge running so that was off too, we couldn't just leave it for days for the electrics to dry out. So P huffed a bit then took the sockets off the walls in the dining room, where he'd been water splashing, and taped the wires up and said that would neutralise them and stop them tripping the rest of the circuit. He was right, it worked, he reset the circuit and fridge whirred into life and the kettle boiled and we got our cups of tea. But what a fuss all because he knew best and got stuck in without thinking. There were other little mishaps, I won't go into them but suffice it to say they were caused by P (and corrected by him too, I have to admit) and I criticised his working methods several times. He got annoyed with me and told me he would spank me if I didn't get on with my jobs and leave him to do his. Looking around me I thought not much chance of spanking me here but I toned down anyway and we had a productive day.

We drove home about 7pm, it's less than thirty minutes, P said he'd get a couple of steaks out if that was OK with me. It was, I didn't fancy going out and Saturday night is difficult last minute anyway. P went straight to the kitchen to put some potatoes in the oven and I went upstairs to clean up. Within minutes I heard his footsteps on the stairs and then he was in the bathroom  where I was pulling bits of wallpaper from my hair. He marched me into the bedroom, I objected that I wasn't finished, he said it didn't matter I could come back in five minutes and finish off preening...if I could stand still in front of the mirror.

I said, "You can't spank me we're home now, the day's over, I haven't done anything." Well I hadn't really.

"I know the day's over but all the fuss you were making earlier about a few little setbacks and telling me how I should and shouldn't be doing things and how I should have listened to you etc etc, but if I'd listened to you we wouldn't have got through half as much as we have. And furthermore, in fact most annoying, is the way you went on at me instead of just giving me chance to fix the little things that went wrong."

I thought about that as he was undoing my jeans, it was true. I apologised and said I was wrong and I wouldn't do the same tomorrow.

"I know you won't," he said, "because you're going to get your backside spanked and you won't like it and it'll remind you to think before you criticise my practical skills."

And I was over his lap with my jeans down to my knees and my knickers at my thighs in no time and his rough hands, still dry from plaster and filler, spanking my bottom good and hard. I kept saying sorry, which I really did mean, I didn't squeal too much even though it hurt because that sometimes excites him to do it harder, in fact it excites me too but I was hungry and achey from a long day and I wanted it to be as short as possible. It ended with me promising I'd be supportive and positive the next day and follow his lead in everything we did and please let me off, I'd learned my lesson. He stopped and told me to get up and said "Well just remember, we're a team we work together and solve problems as we go along."

And then as he went out the door, "Just remember who's in charge."  

I'm sure he would have had a smile on his face as he said that although I didn't see it as I was pulling my knickers and jeans up and looking the other way. We had a very nice simple meal and bottle of wine about an hour later and watched a  couple of episodes of The Crown before going to bed.

Have a funn weekend.



Michael M said...

Very good of you to help out. Not so good to get grumpy. Still you got what you wanted and a tasty meal to boot. I liked the spanksgiving photo of the turkey handprint by the way.

Roz said...

Hi Ronnie, how wonderful of you and P to do that for your son and partner. Sorry it didn't all go smoothly but it sounds as though the job ended well. I can understand your frustration in the moment.

Love P's comment about being a team and working together. Bet you will remember who's in charge tomorrow ... or maybe not :)


Cat said...

LOL Ronnie...this reminds me of several incidents with my ex when we were first married...I definitely learned who was the leader of the team and to keep my 'helpful guidance' to myself. My tush thanked me. What a lovely gift you and P are giving your son and his partner. I'm sure they will come back refreshed and revitalized. When they see what you and P have accomplished, it will probably give them that positive energy they need to keep pushing forward.

Hugs and blessings...Cat

an English Rose said...

Hi Ronnie, oh that's what we do, I sometimes wonder why no one helped us like we help the kids!! I hope the next day was better, I expect the spanking made you feel better anyway.
love Jan, xx

lindy thomas said...

Hi Ronnie what a lovely thing to do for your son and partner. Hope you followed P instructions the next day and didn't tell him how to do things. The spanking sounds fun anyway.

Hugs Lindy xx

Anonymous said...

Ronnie, you and P are so nice to help your son and partner out like that. I can understand why you got upset. Sorry to say but P goofed up the extra water does not really help I know I've done that enough. But having said that if that were me and R and I used too much water R would have taken a few minutes right there to spank me using my own belt then I would have gotten another when we got home with more implements. Look at the bright side P made you diner and you got a spanking yea.

DelFonte said...

Never criticise a man's practical skills!
We don't have Netflix so missing out on The Crown. Any good?

Our Bottoms Burn said...

Totally different dynamic here. Neither one of us is in charge. She has her skill set and I have mine. I will admit that her helpful advise sometimes gets me grumpy, but I also know that she has some good ideas. I frequently ask for her advise and help. That applies to the other way around, when I see her doing something that could be done better another way, she may not receive my advise in the proper spirit. That's because I don't make it as a suggestion. And she will bristle when told what to do. Just as I will.

Oh well, you got a steak.

We finished The Crown last week. Not bad.

PK said...

What good parents you are! And what a wonderful man you have, both to volunteer you and to spank you soundly when he feels it's necessary.

Leigh Smith said...

So nice of you and P to help out your son whilst they are away on vacation.
When Ray is doing projects, it's best if I make myself scarce. Unfortunately, if I do, I don't get the result you do - just a moody husband.

Minelle Labraun said...

You two are wonderful! I am positive you're son and his partner appreciate all your help! I get told off myself when I get to cheeky with the 'helpful' directions! Usually very playfully imparted, unless I'm more then cheeky! Then it's really much harder! Lol

ronnie said...

Michael - I can't say I wanted the spanking:) Thanks. The picture made me smile.

Roz - I was on my best behaviour. Thanks.

Cat - Thanks. You are right Cat. They are home, refreshed and already planning other things for the house.

Jan - Yep, it's what we do. I was his good little helper. Thanks.

Lindy - You wouldn't believe how good I was:) Thanks.

Archedone - I'm glad he didn't spank me then and there. We managed to get a lot done the next day as well. Thanks.

Del - I should known better. So far so good but have only watched a few episodes. Thanks,

OBB - I do normally watch my words when advising him about things but didn't that day. Steak was good. We've only seen a few episodes so far but enjoying it.

PK - But I didn't want a spanking then:) Thanks.

SG - I normally do. Thanks.

Minelle - I hate to say it, he was right, I did go on a bit too much:) Thanks.


Katie said...

Oh gosh, Ronnie! :) So sweet of you both to help your son. I SO get what you describe happening here. Sometimes it is so hard to "zip it"! Good thinking on not egging P on with the spanking. A spanking is no fun at all, when it is unwanted! Sorry you had that happen. I do like the teamwork thing that P said to you!

How are you enjoying the Crown? Rob and I watched all ten of the episodes out, and liked them very much! Seemed so well done! I can't wait for the next season.

Hope that things at your son's place go well for him and his partner. Enjoy the weekend! Many hugs,

<3 Katie

Downunder Don said...

Hi Ronnie, You should never criticise a mans practical skills especially when he is getting it all wrong. Still anything that gets the job done. I hope that the next set of jobs goes much smoother and your son and partner appreciate all the work you both have done.

Hislordship said...

Great post. It did make me smile at the end of my day. As a DIY guy, I too get frustrated with interruptions; I prefer my own mistakes! Nice day to the ending, full marks for being consistent!

Anonymous said...

How sweet of you and P to work on the house while your son and partner had a needed getaway. I totally get how it's hard not to give "helpful advice" in such situations though. I've made Nash rather irritated with me before as well. Ah well, at least we have a good way to handle it now. I hope the next spanking you get is one you want! ;)

ronnie said...

Katie - Sometimes we just can't help giving advise:) I'm enjoying the Crown so far. Didn't realise they were making a second one. Thanks.

Don - I got on with my jobs very well the next day. Thanks.

Hislordship - Hello. It was a good end:) Thanks.

Lilli - I should know by now to zip it. Thanks.


Hermione said...

When is it ever any different? Around here HE is in charge too! I am never allowed to forget it either:)


Blondie said...

Like everyone else already said, you two are very kind to help out your son. I am sure they really appreciate it. I always like to be reminded of who is in charge, even if I don't really ever forget.

Ella said...

Ronnie, I did the same thing over how to properly thaw the turkey! Not something Sam was thankful for at all.

Hugs Across the Pond,

Baker said...

Hi, Ronnie,
I need to learn how and when to keep my mouth quiet as well. It's hard not to give advice or know when to stop pushing. Sometimes I think I can read my man very well and other times not so much. Sounds like you were able to be very helpful to your son and that's what is most important in the long run.

ronnie said...

Hermione - They do like us to know. Thanks.

Blondie - It's nice to be reminded now and again:) Thanks.

Ella - Oh dear, P wouldn't have been thankful either. Thanks.

Baker - I know I should zip it but sometimes I just can't help to give advice:) Thanks.


Red said...

Glad to hear you were recently spanked. Seems a reasonable response by P, as things do go wrong while doing repairs, and negative comments do NOT help. Personally, i am terrible at repairs, but getting much better by using youtube. A door would not close properly, and eventually the hinge came off. The screws would not hold in the holes. A youtube site solution was glue and golf tees. Put a bit of glue on a golf tee, hammer it in, then break the tee off, and you are left with the wood in the hole. Let it set for an hour, then screw in the screws into the hinge and the door has been wonderfully fixed.
if you have doubt about a repair, I highly recommend youtube.
bottoms up

ronnie said...

Hi Red - It was reasonable, I did go on far too much. I have done a few repairs using youtube. Thanks.