Friday, 9 June 2017

"Don't dare make me orgasm!"

My words the other morning when I was lying across my husband's lap getting my backside paddled.

"I don't make you orgasm," my amused husband said as he tightened his grip on my waist.

"I mean it P, I don't want a fucking orgasm, it's against my will." I was wriggling against his thighs trying to get my groin to line up with his knee and trying to avoid it at the same time. I could hear the genuine pleasure in my husband's voice as he rested the paddle on my back to slip his thumb in the waist band of my knickers and pull them down. "Well if you don't want a 'fucking' orgasm, as you put it, I'd better finish this off in quite a different way and add a bit extra for the bad language."

I got my bottom paddled really hard and the orgasm which had been building, encouraged by my nearest and dearest, dissipated and I ended up with a very sore bottom and a mouth full of yum. Sometimes you don't want an orgasm (I could never have imagined saying that years ago), you want the need for one to be there but not actually get it. Not then anyway.

We talked light heartedly about it afterwards, I said I would have reported him for forcing me to have an orgasm. He roared with laughter, I giggled. After he'd gone out I was sitting on well warmed bottom, googling spanking orgasms. There's loads of stuff out there, much more than last time I searched which was probably a couple of years ago. Maybe more women getting orgasms from spankings or maybe they're just prepared to talk about it more.

Anyway a couple that amused me.....

One that offered 'How to Spank A Woman To Orgasm' in 5 easy steps.  I thought really? A bit like painting by numbers, so easy? Well according to an old article I found in Made Man it is and the author Mason Kaho lists them as follows, with accompanying advice to each step which I haven't pasted but it's there online if you want to take a look:-

    Tell her ahead of time what she has coming
    Make her choose the implement
    Start slow then increase the intensity
    Be verbal
    Go in for the finish

Now I know, and I'm sure most of us do, that it isn't so straightforward at all but his text is informative and I identified with a lot of what he said. Clearly his advice is based on co-operation and and a willingness from both parties to achieve said orgasm. But what about getting an orgasm which hasn't been planned?

Ah well, I found another article, from Lady Smut (yes that's correct but the article isn't smutty at all), written by Rachel Krame Bussel, which gives a brief account, taken from a book, of a female pop start who gets arrested for shoplifting and trades her would-be sentence for a series of spankings. I have a little clip below:-

"...There was a mean sting on my skin when his large hand first made contact, followed by a deep ache in my flesh as it absorbed the full force of the strike. He spread the slaps around, alternating sides, occasionally landing near the juncture between my thighs—those were the best ones.

Each time, pain roared through my body, making my nipples throb and my cunt clench in sympathy. But it was a delicious torture that built with the burn until I was on fire. I could feel my juices sliding past my cunt lips and onto my thighs. I couldn’t believe it; I was going to come, just from him spanking me..."

I liked her writing, plain and to the point. So there....the 'with consent and intention' orgasm and the 'without consent taken by surprise' orgasm. I know which I prefer but unfortunately hardly ever get, probably because we know each other too well. Still, I'm not complaining....except when he tries to force me:)

Have a fun weekend.



Meredith Malloy said...

You had me panting with my morning coffee.

Roz said...

Phew Ronnie, it's getting hot in here lol. Interesting article.


abby said...

Hmmm....I have said "enough" and "no more", but never I don't make me...and Lady Smut is pretty accurate in my book...hugs abby

Ella said...

What a great post, Ronnie! Don't think I have ever uttered those words, though. When you think that you are probably allotted only a certain number of orgasms in this life, I cherish every last one.

Still Counting,

Red said...

The more orgasms, the better. Their are many reasons why we like to be spanked, and fantastic sex is definitely the highest on the list. Did you find any for men, because while being spanked, most men find a wilting phenomena, which resurrects quickly once the spanking is done. (or is this just a feature of age, and do young men keep their erection during a spanking?
excellent fun research, and thanks for sharing... but denying an orgasm... ???
bottoms up

Our Bottoms Burn said...

We find Mason Kaho to know what he is talking about. Especially, Tell her ahead of time what she has coming and Be verbal. I try to start the day before telling her in detail what is going to happen. She likes to "stew in her own juices" overnight thinking about it. Bacall has always been open about what turns her on and I am pleased to play it back for her as needed.

It does not always work for her and she is disappointed when it does not. But, is eager to try again.

Not sure why you did not want to be forced.

Good post.

PK said...

You are married to a beast! How dare he? And do you think he would give Nick some pointers - I'm not above being forced!

ronnie said...

Meredith - Happy you enjoyed it:) Thanks.

Roz - I thought so. Thanks Roz.

Abby - Yep she is pretty accurate. Thanks.

Ella - Thank you. I'm a lucky girl and my fair share of orgasms:)

Red - Thanks. I didn't find much re men. When I have time might go back and google. Sometimes I like not to orgasm then and there, like it to build up and dealt with later.

OBB - Same as Bacall I like to be told early what's going to happen. As I said to Red - Sometimes I like it that way, my orgasm builds up and eventually gives a very powerful release. Quite yummy. Thanks.

PK - I don't think Nick needs any tips. Thanks.


Hermione said...

I don't think I can imagine myself ever saying that! Great articles too.


Minelle Labraun said...

All I can add is -yum!

Fondles said...

woohoo... research sure can get interesting... and hot! I should aim to do some research of my own :)

ronnie said...

Hermione - Thanks. I didn't think I every would.

Minelle - Yum indeed. Thanks.

Fondles - Get researching:) Thanks.