Friday, 6 June 2014

Be Evil

I posted recently about a spanking I got for doing something evil to my husband, he's the one who dubbed it evil, not me. I thought it was fun. And it got me spanked. Pretty hard too.

So you want to know what this evil act is, so you can do it and get your comeuppance avoid it like the plague, right? Well I'll tell you, but first let me tell you it's something I've done before but without knowing it was a known tool in some girls' repertoires, I've done it instinctively just to tease a bit, not with any wicked objectivity. What I've done on occasions is to be at the advanced stage of a blowjob but then, at just the point when I know P is about to gift me with his sticky load, hold back, no lips no tongue no touching, just hovering nearby, tantalising him as he's thrust his hips or grapped my hair to make the connection he's needed. Sometimes I've given in and taken it and other times I've caused him to spurt with my hand instead, and then said sorry couldn't get there in time (a little porky). Not evil at all, just playing. But close to evil, although I didn't know it then.

So what's the evil, I'll tell's apparently called a 'ruined orgasm' and I only read about it recently (sheltered life that I lead) when I followed a link from another blog. The bottom line is that when done expertly, it causes the man to ejaculate but doesn't actually give him an orgasm, or not a fulfilling one, leaving him still hard and horny even though he's empty. He still wants it and the feeling lasts so you get plenty of attention instead of the usual post orgasm disinterest. Now I've already figured out this can't work with full penetrative sex but it certainly can with hand and mouth, I can vouch for it. Briefly what you do is work your man up, normal foreplay stuff which is fun for both anyway, but then when he's really really close to ejaculating, in fact at the point of no return, you lay off, and that means completely, no touching his cock at all and make sure he can't rub against you or get into you. His cock will spasm and spurt gushes of his delicious stuff into the air. You will witness desperation, pleas, Oh gods, Fuck! Fuck! Fucks!, lewd thrusting of the pelvis and so on. Well I did.

I was smiling innocently when my husband said "What the fuck did you do that for?" "It's just a little technique I've learned, did you like it?" I asked but the only answer I got was "Oh Christ" and my husband stood up, bent me over the bed and entered me with delightful force, his cock was rock hard and soaking wet from the dribbles and as he thrust away I came. He did not but I got the distinct impression he wanted to. I told him no point keep doing that, unless he wanted to make me come again, I'd drained him and that was what I'd intended to do and he better be nice and maybe later, if he's lucky. For several hours after that P was putty in my hands, wanting to touch, talk and follow me around, it was very pleasant and eventually he did get what he wanted. But I've read some women use this tactic repeatedly to keep their men in a similar state for several days. I don't think P would stand for that.

It was only after he'd got what he needed that he told me he was going to spank me for doing what I'd done and that it had been evil. But I got the impression it had thrown him out of his comfort zone and that really deep down he'd found it 'interesting', that's the way he would probably put it. Anyway I definitely found it interesting and I shall do it again when I think the time is right.

Have a fun weekend.



MrJ said...

Do it again?!??
If I were P I would immediately promise some add-on consequences. Writing lines, cornertime. Or something in kind.

an English Rose said...

Oh my god Ronnie, you were so mean, you deserved that spanking lol
love Jan,xx

Ami Starsong said...

Well, I've always said you live and learn!

Spookily it's me who can't seem to stop myself these days, although I do sometimes end up with a pearl necklace due to being a tease.


Anonymous said...

I've been waiting for you to post what you did to earn a spanking. Actually I think P did enjoy it. My wife has done that to me a few times saying she loves to watch me squirting. I think when he entered you bent over he should have kept it up and given you another climax. Something else I've found is when I give R 2 climaxes she rewards me with a spanking. But I don't think it's evil do it again LOL.

Roz said...

LoL Ronnie, pure evil ... I'd do it again :)

Ami - OMG, you crack me up :)


PK Corey said...

I think it was beautifully evil! I'm proud of you girl! You be sure to tell us how it goes for you when you try it again.

Anonymous said...


A ruined orgasm is very evil! It drives a man crazy!!! I read about it a year ago when I was doing some research on orgasm control for men.

It is true that an orgasm makes us disinterested in sex. So, the longer we go without one, the more we want one. Tease and denial by a female is often used to make us want it more. But, a ruined orgasm is evil because we still have the desire, but cannot orgasm.

Try it again? Try it again on P?

Your female bloggers are so brave telling you to do it. Hmmmm.

Big Hug,

Minelle Labraun said...

Gosh, is all I can say and thanks for the info.... Lol
If it makes them want more how can that be evil?

Our Bottoms Burn said...

Evil or teasing? You two decide. Like you, this sexual practice only came on my radar in the last year or so, as something men want a woman to do to them. Scratches head.

Hermione said...

I've never heard of that. I had no idea that ejaculation didn't necessarily include an orgasm.

Who knew?


Leigh Smith aka Sunny Girl said...

Thanks for the information. I don't think it's evil at all. You're so smart

Wilma Rubble said...

Huh. You learn something new every day.

sub hub in phx said...

Yeah, the good old ruined orgasm. You sub ladies may have been sheltered from the knowledge of this but it is something that we submissive husband are very familiar with. Sometimes over a long period, an occasional ruined orgasm is all that we get. I have actually come to almost prefer them over a full on orgasm because the horniness recovery time is almost nill.

ronnie said...

MrJ - Wouldn't be corner time or writing lines just a very sore bottom. Thank you.

Jan - I certainly did. Thanks.

Ami - Pearl necklace oh funny. Thanks.

Archedone - I certainly will do it again. Just biding my time:) Thank you.

Roz - She cracks me up as well. Thank you.

PK - I certainly will. Thanks.

Joey - They are but I bet they wouldn't be so brave if they did it and got spanked hard for it:) Thank you.

Minelle - So you will be trying it then Minelle:) Thanks.

OBB - I know P found it interesting but it's not something I could do on a regular basis. Thanks.

Hermione - Now you do:) Thanks.

SG - But you're not a man:) Thanks.

Wilma - Yep and never too old to learn something new:) Thanks.

Sub hub - Ah a man who has experienced them. I have read that's all some sub husbands get. P wouldn't like that. Thank you.


Janey said...

I think that a woman can have these too. Perhaps not in exactly the same way, but I have in the past been given permission to pleasure myself and then had my fingers yanked away at the last moment and I just sort of weakly tipped over the edge but not with full benefits. Left me wanting more but unable to carry on as I was over sensitised by then.

foothills1981 said...

Fascinating. Evil, yes. Fascinating, yes.

smuccatelli said...

I notice a lot of the ladies don't think it's evil but most of the men do. I heartily concur. You're kind of a kinky sort, aren't you (not that there's anything wrong with that...)?

P, next time just make sure you have a good handful of hair on the back of her head... ;-)

Red said...

Ronnie: Contrary to what seems the general opinion, it is something I think P does not want. Why in the world, unless you are a true BDSM submissive would you want an orgasm ruined. Life is so damn short, that an orgasm denied is one you will never have. For those who do, the next step would be chastity devices, like penis cages.
However, maybe those suggesting more might consider being told to strip and stand in the corner for a spanking, and after a half hour be told, no spanking today. How about the spanker taking out a few implements and leaving them on the bed, then going out, then coming home after you have seen them, and simply putting them away.
I think this is something you have to discuss with P,openly, so that both of you know it is acceptable or not acceptable. This is dangerous ground, please talk about it.
bottoms up

Anonymous said...


You inspired me to write a post on male orgasm control.

I hope you find it interesting.


Terpsichore said...

very educational :-) Hugs

Autumn said...

WOW! Oh my goodness, that sounds *incredibly* evil! I hate it when he denies me orgasm. I kinda wanna try it on him, though...

Jay said...

Thanks, Ronnie, for the very educational story! I laughed myself silly reading this!

Enzo said...

OK Evil is right!. Not nice at all!
I don't think your amends were enough in my book.

Cat said...

Ooh Ronnie...I have never heard of that before...ummm...sorry but I do believe it's a bit on the evil side. Hope you know what you're doing if you decide to pull it again!

Hugs and Blessings...

ronnie said...

Janey - Yes I know what you mean but as you say, not quite like a man having one. Thanks.

Foothilla - P said evil, not me:) Thanks.

Smuccatelli - Me kinky, of course. Some would say spanking was kinky:) Thank you.

Red - No, no dangerous ground at all. I will do it again but it's not something I will make a habit of. That's not what its about. Thanks.

Joey - Thanks for letting me know. Will pop over when I have time.

Terps - I thought so:) Thanks.

Autumn - You could once but be prepared to get spanked it you do:) Thank you.

Jay - Happy you liked it. Thanks.

Enzo - In P's I think so. Well for this time:) Thank you.

Cat - I will be very prepared:) Thank you.


1ManView said...

I call it the dry heave, because you go through all the emotional drama, the physical attributes, just to have what feels like a dry ejaculation. Imagine a tongue that just barely touch your womb lips, just as you are ready to release. You push your hips up towards it, but there's no connection. And your hands are tied to the bed post, so there's no help there either, Yea, "Evil" is the correct word you naughty woman... :)


ronnie said...

1MV - I'm afraid I have to agree, evil indeed:)