Friday, 9 May 2014

How She Feels.....

.....before, during and after being spanked.


A deep arousing sensation wells up inside my lower abdomen when you firmly tell me you are going to spank me. It is partly sexual in origin, partly emotional. The sexual part changes, it stays sexual but that doesn't mean I want sex, which I don't.

The sexual aspect has to do with being over your knee, close to your body. It has to do with you baring my bottom for what you will do and seeing it vulnerable. It is the feel of your firm hands touching me, holding me down. It is knowing we will share loving feelings when it is over.

Emotionally, it is knowing you are in charge and will handle my behavior and make decisions without my input. It is a pleasurable feeling to have you deciding how I will be disciplined—comforting at some distant level. The nature of this pleasure is what draws me to you, allows me to give consent for you to take control. I know it will hurt, but I will never be hurt.

It is wonderful to have such trust in each other. We do not get an opportunity for that very often—to have complete trust in another person. It is rare and unique. I do not consciously think these thoughts each time—my body's sensation is enough to flood me with a sense of well being. It leaves a smile inside me.


Fear—definitely fear—not of you, but of what you must do. Excitement... as I go over your knee, as my panties are being pulled down, when I feel your leg go over mine to pin me in place... giving up control to you... moving to a place where I have to obey... where you are in charge, and I will be cared for and taken care of, where I feel you totally engaged with me.

Pain... while the actual spanking is happening, I think of very little else but the pain. I am begging for it to stop, I mean it, I want to make you stop but you mustn't stop, we both know it. I just hurts so badly, I have an almost overwhelming urge to interfere with the paddling, my hand, kicking, I want a pillow on my backside, so you cannot spank my bare bottom. I want to jerk my bottom out of your reach, but I am trapped solidly between your legs and arm, and I want so much to cry in desperation, to let you know how it feels but not to stop you.

When it is a truly hard spanking, I feel such helplessness that I cannot interfere with it. I can only choose surrender to your discipline, until it is done. Then toward the end, fear wells up again, as I always think the last spanks will surely be the worst. I wait for those, wanting them to come, but not wanting to feel them, great ambivalence. I am never angry, never. Instead, at the end, I am tired and often in tears but refreshed, content.


I need you. Total surrender leaves me very vulnerable. I feel little and tender. I want you to hold me, tightly. I need your arms around me. I want to talk, cry on your chest. I feel deeply connected. A very peaceful calm stays with me for a very long time, if it has been an emotional experience, which it always is. It is one of my most powerful experiences, it changes me. It creates a calmness within me that radiates a joyful existence. I notice it every day.

The burning in my bottom is incessant but it becomes pleasant. If it is tender the next day, I am happy. I enjoy looking at the redness, I enjoy you looking at it if I am in the corner. Sometimes I need you to spank me again. It never hurts as much the second time, at least not quite as much. If I haven't cried the first time I almost certainly will now.

There are really no negatives to a discipline spanking, except the spanking itself, but even this is not true. I like that too but not in a way I can easily express. I like the touch, the firmness, the certainty even though it is so painful; it is a path to a place I need to go with the one who holds my deepest trust.

I have quite a few snippets, stories, spanking articles and pictures sent to me by readers and other bloggers, Some for my eyes and some for sharing.  I really liked it and had to share. My reader can't remember where she found it so I hope the author doesn't mind me sharing it here. Please, if it's yours, let me know so I can give credit or remove if that's your wish.

Have a fun weekend.



bobbsroom said...

I Like that

He/she explains their feelings very well.

Have a good weekend


garyntboy said...

I thought that was beautiful, just beautiful. Perfectly described. Thank you Ronnie for sharing it with us.
Kind regards,

an English Rose said...

Hi Ronnie, what an emotive piece of writing. Sums it all up really.
Hope you and P. have a nice weekend
love Jan.xx

Anonymous said...

That just about explains everything.

Anonymous said...

Ronnie those feeling are so well written and I feel goes both ways.
Men can feel the same with a few items added. A very strong feeling of knowing you are going to be corrected and wanting it.
have a great weekend

Roz said...

I really liked this Ronnie, so beautifully written and sums up the emotions wonderfully. Thanks for sharing.


abby said...

A great piece of writing, capturing the change of emotions beautifully. Words many of us can identify with, once again thanks for sharing.
hugs abby

MrJ said...

Beautiful, and much is close to what by beloved one feels - though it also differs between different moments.

Wilma Rubble said...

Ronnie this is fantastic! I think this will help a lot of women explain to their husbands ( especially those who are reluctant to spank). So thank you very much!

Have a great weekend

Minelle Labraun said...

Perfectly describes the conflict of emotions. The want and need of this thing we do!
Thanks Ronnie!
Have a perfect weekend!

Hermione said...

A very perceptive woman wrote that, and she speaks for many of us.


Leigh Smith aka Sunny Girl said...

Such an emotional piece of writing.

Anonymous said...

Oh goodness, I needed that.The hum drum of everyday life has rather taken over. I am printing this out for Peter. Sarah,LD,UK

ronnie said...

Bob - I think it probably is a she but I don't know. Thanks.

Gary - Yes, was perfectly described. Thanks.

Jan - It was too good not to share, Thanks.

Blitzwed - Hello. Yes, I agree. Thanks.

Archedone - Yes, totally agree with you, works for both. Thanks.

Roz - I so glad I was sent it. Thank you.

Abby - Yes, captures it beautifully. Thank you

MrJ - Close to what a lot of us feel. Thanks.

Willie - Yes, you could be right so I hope it does. Thanks.

Minelle - I couln't have put it into words. Thanks.

Hermione - I agree. Thanks.

SG - Very emotional. Thank you.

Sarah - Hello. Funny, Just thinking about you. Hope it works:)

I hope the author spots it and comes forward as I would very much like to read more from her.


Ami Starsong said...

This perfectly puts into words what we are all thinking before, during and after. I don't think I have ever read it expressed so adequately before. It is only going there yourself, that you can truly understand the complexities involved in willingly submitting to be spanked. I am so glad you found this and decided to share it with us as I think it will be of enormous help to anyone starting out.


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sub hub in phx said...

What a tremendously well written piece. Thank you so much for sharing it. I have tried to put my feelings into words in conversation with my Mistress about punishment spankings and this is almost exactly how I feel. Thank you again!

sub hub in phx said...

May I share it on my blog?

ronnie said...

Ami - It really sums it up. We can certainly identify. Thanks.

Mr.J - Thanks for letting me know. Can't take credit for it.

Sub hub in phx - Hello. I'm happy I was sent it. It doesn't belong to me so up to you if you want to repost it but if you do, I would suggest you let your readers know it's not your writing and add that you hope the author would come forward. Thanks for stopping by.


Downunder Don said...

This is the first post in a very long time that tries to describe the "emotion & feeling" of a loving spanking. It has helped me attempt to work out what it is that my wife asks for and experiences. A huge thanks to the person who wrote it and to you Ronnie for sharing

Sarah said...

Ronnie, this is perfect. Can I link it on my blog, or copy it in a post?

Cat said...

Wow Ronnie...whoever wrote that did am awesome job. Thanks for sharing.

Hugs and Blessings...

1ManView said...

I'm always learning from you. I've read a lot of blogs to get a feel of spanking and this really summed up what took me a good year of blog reading to understand. Great piece Ronnie.. And thanks for sharing as always.... I'm mad at myself. I was reading a blog from Brazil, It was talking about a study they did, and they said light tapping on a woman behind made their hormones increase. I didn't have time to finish the article and thought I book marked it. Yea, Ok... I haven't a clue where I was, I was looking for new blogs to follow. But I'm looking for it, because there were several woman stating they knew that for generations and their family practice it. Talk about a screw up on my part.. (:

Have a wondrous Mother's Day!

ronnie said...

Don - Hello and welcome. Whoever wrote it did a wonderful job. Thanks for stopping by.

Sarah - As it's not mine it's up to you as long as you say acknowledge it's not your writing. Thanks.

Cat - So perfect. I really hope the author spots it. Thanks.

1MV - It is a marvellous piece of writing. I've done the same, meaning to bookmark a particular piece and then lost it. Hope you come across it again. Thanks.


Anonymous said...




TL Bucko said...

Absolutely perfect. That's all that needs to be said. :)

ronnie said...

Joey - I thought so. Thanks.

TL Bucko - Agreed. Thank you.


Enzo said...

This is an excellent description of all the phases from her point of view. Well done.
Thanks for sharing!

Baxter said...

That was very well written. thank you for sharing it.

Anonymous said...

I can relate. I like this. Thank you for sharing.


ronnie said...

Enzo - I wish the author had come forward as I would like to read more. Thanks.

Baxter - Yes, excellent piece of writing. Thank you.

Hedone - Happy I was able to share Thanks.


marita correa said...

Hi Ronnie, I think this article was written for the blog, taken in hand. I read a few years ago and got impressed, I feel exactly as she, but I couldn't express it as well.
Thanks for sharing, it's nice to read it again.


ronnie said...

Marita - Hello. I remember taken in hand so maybe from there. Thank you. I couldn't express is as well either.


Annabelle Smith said...

So wonderfully stated. Thanks for sharing.